Happy Thanksgiving

I'm sure there will be a ton of Happy Thanksgiving blogs in the next several hours. I would just like to take a minute and see what everyone is thankful for today. 

I am thankful for

- family despite the craziness that they bring

- my sweet brother who agreed to be home this year because I asked

- green bean casserole

- hubby's R&R which is coming oh so soon

- incredible friends

Last I would like to say that today I am especially thankful for all those serving overseas. There are thousands that will be away from their families this year including my husband and some very dear friends. I love you all. Next year, we are having the largest turkey ever. lol 

What are you thankful for? 

Positive Thinking

I have been quite negative lately. Blame it on PMS. Blame it on my husband having been gone for 7 months. Blame it on 4 consecutive days of rain last week. So in an effort to drag myself out of this slump, we are going to think positive today.
Here's my list:
- I have awesome new red shoes. (hey it's the simple things.)
- I made a killer pot of coffee this morning.
- Less than 30 days until R&R. (insert happydance here)
- Incredible friends both near and far
- New pictures to add to my portfolio (post coming soon)

I want to hear your list. What are some of the positive things in your life today?

Veteran's Day

*Saying goodbye to my soldier* 

 Today if you get the chance, thank someone who has/is serving in the Armed Forces. If you can't thank them personally, thank their loved ones. It's because of the courageous men and women who have and are serving that we enjoy all the freedoms that we have. In honor of all those past and present who have served - Thank You! 

Hope

I was reminded tonight that there is always hope. I am hoping for this year a lot of things this year. I'm hoping for a white Christmas. I'm hoping for a blizzard the day my husband is supposed to return to Iraq. Hey one can always hope. ;) I have more serious hopes. I hope with all my heart that everyone in my husbands unit comes home safely to their families. Remember there is always hope. I'll leave you now with a few of my favorite quotes on the subject.  

The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. 

~Allan K. Chalmers

I still believe in hope - mostly because there is no such place as Fingers Crossed, Arkansas. 

~Molly Ivins

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge -- myth is more potent than history -- dreams are more powerful than facts -- hope always triumphs over experience -- laughter is the cure for grief -- love is stronger than death. 

~ Robert Fulghum

Love should end with hope. Hope guides me. It is what gets me through the day and especially the night. The hope that after you're gone from my sight it will not be the last time that I look upon you. 

~ A Knight's Tale (sorry had to throw in a movie quote). 

So what are you hoping for today?

Molly and Justin's Wedding

A couple of weekends ago, I had the privilege of being part of Molly and Justin's wedding. They were married on the beach. Despite the rain and cold, the ceremony was beautiful. The pictures didn't turn out too shabby either. 

Election Day

In case you have been living under a rock, today Americans will stand in line and cast their vote to elect a new president. Along with the Presidential election, American citizens will also vote for local and state politicians. For weeks, newscasters, analysts and bloggers have been discussing who will win and what the important issues are. In all the blogs that I have read, this is the point where I am supposed to give you my opinion of who the best candidate is and who I will be voting for.

However, I am not going to do either of those things. The problem with telling someone who to vote for is simple. It's so simple that you will laugh. You see I will not tell you who to vote for because the issues that are important to me are not automatically going to be important to you. We get this idea in our head that the candidate we agree with the most is the candidate for everyone. Obviously this is not true. If it were true, there would be no need for separate political parties and months of campaigning.

Am I going to tell you who I am voting for? No. Am I going to tell you the issues that are important to me? No. I will be honest and say that I am ready to get this election behind us. I am tired of the debates, the commercials, and the signs littering local yards and the sides of streets. So what am I going to tell you? I am going to tell you that I am not voting this year. Now before you tell me how horrible this is let me explain. First I would have to vote by absentee ballot. My vote would only count if it came down to a run off. By the way, considering there are over a 100,000 men and women in the armed forces that are having to vote absentee this year, I may just come back to this subject another day. Yes over 100,000 votes that won't count. Again will come back to that later.

But to stay on topic, let's explore another side of voting. As a woman, I value and do not take lightly the privilege to vote. I believe that the women that sacrificed to get us the vote sacrificed so that we would have options. They believed in a world where women would be have an equal voice in government. All Americans have been bombarded for months about exercising your voice by voting. There is another way to exercise your voice. Hold onto your pants because this is going to be a shocker. You can make a statement by not voting. Will it make much of one? Probably not, but if all Americans that were unhappy with the options that have been presented to them chose not to give in and vote for the lesser of two evils stood up and refused to vote. Well that might make a difference.

Am I telling you not to vote? No that's not what I am doing. I am encouraging you to stand up and raise your voice. If that means, voting for the candidate that you feel is best for you then vote. If you are ok with choosing the candidate that is enough in line with what is important to you then vote. However if you can't come to terms with either candidate because you just don't feel that either one of them represent what is truly important to you then don't vote. Many people will disagree with me, but personally I think exercising your voice by not voting in some cases is as important as voting.

Army Wives

The Lifetime TV network has a show called Army Wives. It is about exactly what you think its about. Army Wives. As an Army wife, I was intrigued. I was curious which attributes and stereotypes they would play up. Although they cannot convey all that we go through, I feel that Lifetime has done a decent job of getting our story out there. From what I have experienced as an Army wife, it is a story worth telling. Some of the strongest women I know are or have been military spouses. I think the greatest thing that I have learned is not to take anyone or any moment for granted. "We live while we can, laugh while we can and love while we can." We understand to live for today because tomorrow you may be saying goodbye. Goodbye for us is not "see you soon" it is "if I don't come home, know that I love you more than anything in the world, but know that I will come home." We say goodbye with only the hope of "Welcome Home."


However sending our husbands off is only one of the goodbyes we learn to say. At some point, I will have to say goodbye to some of the most amazing women I have ever met. Home will have a new meaning and location. At some point, we will all move on. We will leave where we are, go to another duty station, or try to get used to being civilians again. You see in the army nothing is guaranteed.


We live for today. We soak up every moment and memory. We reach out to each other. We form bonds with other wives quickly because we may only have a couple of months at the same duty station. What most army wives won't let you see is the tears we cry, the pain that we feel, the aching loss of going through another anniversary, birthday, or holiday season without our husbands, but with other military wives we will let that guard down. We learn the importance of friendship because we know that our friends are the ones that are there for us. Our families are a great support system, but it is our fellow army/military spouses that understand the conflicting emotions that this life brings.


While I have been counting down the days for my husband's R&R, one of my friends has been counting the days until her husband leaves. She is as happy for me as I am sad for her. I know her pain. I remember what those last few weeks felt like. You soak up every moment. Memorize every smile, because in the next couple of months that is all that you will have. There is always a conflict of emotions in this life we lead. My friends and I support each other although we rarely are going through the same thing at the same time. However the driving force for us all is the same, we have great love.

This is the hardest part to explain, because unless you have lived it you will not understand. In all our separations over the last almost two years, my love for my husband has grown. The question I hate the most is " I just don't know how you do it?" It's not a question at all for me. I do it because I love my husband. I'm not talking high school crush here. I'm talking the kind of love that goes beyond looks and mutual interests. I'm talking about the kind of love that supports a person while they fulfill a dream. A kind of love that makes you physically ache because you miss that person so much. You see with great love comes great sacrifice. Do my husband and I have a great love? Yes, I think so. My personal opinion is that the military couples that not only survive deployments but truly grow in their relationship during these times of separation truly have a great love. They have to. My friend B's husband was deployed last year with the Navy. She has been an inspiration to me, and I stole her goal (so to speak) from her husbands deployment. She decided that surviving a deployment was not enough. She would thrive. Her incredible perspective, on what can be a trying and even relationship ending time, helped me get perspective on my hubbies current deployment. Life and love are about perspective. I could think about all the things that we are missing out on, or we can use this time to strengthen our relationship and to improve on ourselves as individuals. My greatest inspiration through this trying time has been my husband. He could be sitting over there just doing what he has to just get by and get it over with. Instead he is taking advantage of the situation to further his career and truly thrive.

With all that said, I am not saying this so that you will feel pity for me as an Army wife. It is the last thing I want, need or deserve. I say this to inspire you to appreciate what you have. To evaluate your life and see if a change of perspective is needed to make your life more fulfilled. Lastly, I write this to encourage you to tell everyone you love how you feel. Life is fragile, and tomorrow is never a guarantee.